Can’t chat and play on Xbox Live – How many got this fixed?

On 7 November, 2008 by Carol



Can’t chat and play on Xbox Live

This issue really gets to me, as we all have been trying to fix this since the beginning of 2007.

It is ridiculous that no one from Microsoft Support Center came up with a logical explanation for this and with a fix.
What’s more ridiculous is that i get the feeling that they are relying on the forums and bloggers to find the fix.
Ok, i get it, the crowds can share more, but the answers we get when calling or e-mailing MS for this very issue are just a waste of time.
Today, after getting one other comment asking for help, i decided to make a checklist and look at this from a different angle.

We have:

  • A 360
  • A modem
  • A router: with integrated firewall and without
  • A connection: wireless, direct connection to a router, direct connection to a modem, a slow connection, a fast connection
  • An ISP
  • A NAT: open, moderate, strict
  • A gamerzone: Pro, Underground, Recreation, Family
  • Family Settings on 360

I will be listing few possible solutions, some of them also mentioned in my other entries.


Situation 1:

You are connected to a router and your NAT is open or moderate. You could play before with your friends and now you can’t unless someone else hosts the game.

Possible solution:
Disconnect the internet cable from your 360.
Shut down your 360 now. Unplug all cables from your modem and let the modem offline few minutes. (make it 5)
Reconnect the modem and connect your 360 directly to it instead of your router.
Restart your 360 and connect to a friend you couldn’t chat or play with before.
Check your gamer zone. If your friend’s gamerzone is “Underground”n try setting yours the same.
Now see what happens.


Situation 2:

You are connected to a router and your NAT is set to Strict.

Solution:
Open the NAT. Go to PortForward.com and find your router.
Follow the instructions. Note: you’ll need a computer or a laptop in order to do this.


Situation 3:

You are a minor and your parents have set up your 360.
Your parents know what they are doing and you shouldn’t challenge their judgement.

Possible solution 1:
Wait till you’re 18.

Possible solution 2:
Explain to your parents that you can’t play anymore with your friends. Good luck with that!


Situation 4:

When playing with others your “ping” is red and you keep falling off the game and even game-lobby.
You also start having problems connecting to your friends using the same ISP.

Possible solution:
Contact your ISP.
In some countries the ISP’s are offering a limited bandwidth (the rip-off packs), so you can either upgrade your pack or wait till your new band reset.


Situation 5:

You’ve been able to play and chat with your friends and suddenly you can’t do that anymore. Your ping is fine, your NAT is open, your Gamerzone the same as your friends, your router is fine and the same, your connection is fast and you even connected directly to the router, but nothing seems to fix it.

Possible solution:
You’ve been prompted to install a game update or you’ve downloaded a game add-on or map and it is either corrupted or incomplete.
This can cause issues.
Remove any recent downloads from your hard drive.
Now clear your 360′s cache as following:
Go to your Dashboard, System blade , Memory and then Hard Drive.
Highlight the drive and press Y for the options. Now press X, X, LB, RB, X, X.
Now confirm the system maintenance.
Once the maintenance has been done, reboot your 360. Now try a voice chat with one of your friends with whom you’ve had issues.


Some other tricks that may fix this:

 

  • Reset your modem and router.
  • Buy a new router
  • Buy a hub
  • Reset your Internet connection via your pc by going to your router’s control panel and clearing all the packs, and maybe restarting the router via this panel.
  • Check the family settings. Maybe you’ve made some changes recently that are causing you issues.
  • Check your privacy settings on your 360 profile.
  • Check to see if you’ve put any of your friends on “mute” by mistake. Do this by viewing their profile via your xbox 360.

You guys, i really hope that one of these solutions will help you, because if they don’t, then i am really out of options here. If anyone has any other solutions, please contribute.

 

The other entry can be found here:I can’t join a friend’s game or do a voice chat on Xbox Live



  • http://www.carolsvault.com/ Carol

    How many machines have you got connected to internet? You might have an IP conflict.

    To explain:
    Not so long ago I installed a second xbox in my bedroom and tried playing Gears 3 in co-op with my boyfriend and some other friends.
    Now, with two consoles connected at the same time we had serious issues, so i switched my xbox to wireless connection and we can now join any game and any party.
    His xbox takes the default IP given by the modem and i get one of the IP’s from the wireless router.
    I also use everywhere in my house power-lines to keep the connection as much as possible on cable.

    If you only have one machine connected then ask a friend to let you borrow an old router?
    Yours might have issues.

  • John Kendall

    Usually you have to go to the My Xbox tab in the top left corner of your screen, then go all the way to the end (hold the left stick to the right) you will see Family Settings. Click on that and then change the setting to Adult OR change the settings to how you want. Hope this helps!!!!!!!!!!

  • John Kendall

    Usually you have to go to the My Xbox tab in the top left corner of your screen, then go all the way to the end (hold the left stick to the right) you will see Family Settings. Click on that and then change the setting to Adult OR change the settings to how you want. Hope this helps!!!!!!!!!!

  • http://www.carolsvault.com/ Carol

    Sure thing! Hope something in there helped you.

    Cheers!

    Carol

  • Davo058

    Hey

    Thanks for actually answering the issue of chat issues with friends, so hard to find actual solutions on the internet

    again cheers

  • keely

    i have kinda the same problem.i havn’t tried the Possible solutions yet.gonna do that right now,but my problem is that i can join a party with whoever in the world except for one friend.that i didn”t have this problem with before.it just started a month ago.
    so i’m gonna try out a few of the solutions and get back to you guy’s.
    but please if you know a way to fix this problem directly, please help me.

  • keely

    i have kinda the same problem.i havn’t tried the Possible solutions yet.gonna do that right now,but my problem is that i can join a party with whoever in the world except for one friend.that i didn”t have this problem with before.it just started a month ago.
    so i’m gonna try out a few of the solutions and get back to you guy’s.
    but please if you know a way to fix this problem directly, please help me.

  • Simon

    This article was posted November 7th 2008. The punch line of this is that it’s now june 2009 and yet somehow this problem persists. When I contact microsoft customer support by email they ask me to phone them instead and when I phone them, they can’t fix it, so I think I will quit wasting my time.

    Mine can work perfectly well for a number of days, sometimes as much as a week with only occasional lag spikes (which I blame on my ISP, not the xbox or live service) but then, arbitrarily, one day it will refuse to let me start or join private chats or parties with specific individuals. I can do these things with any other person sometimes, just not the people I want to. At the same time as this is happening, I can play games by myself, with no lag or any issues I can play with utter strangers.

    When I try to connect to my friend’s party, it tells me it could not connect. It tells me it may be a problem with my NAT, and then it tells me that my NAT settings are OPEN, the right kind. All in the same sentence. I would like to thank the developers of halo 3, and microsoft for deeming it necessary to tell me that regardless of how correct my settings are, my paid-for service is still broken, and then not offer any kind of alternative solutions.

    Microsoft must be pretending it isn’t happening at all.
    Lalala paying customers, we can’t hear you!

  • Simon

    This article was posted November 7th 2008. The punch line of this is that it’s now june 2009 and yet somehow this problem persists. When I contact microsoft customer support by email they ask me to phone them instead and when I phone them, they can’t fix it, so I think I will quit wasting my time.

    Mine can work perfectly well for a number of days, sometimes as much as a week with only occasional lag spikes (which I blame on my ISP, not the xbox or live service) but then, arbitrarily, one day it will refuse to let me start or join private chats or parties with specific individuals. I can do these things with any other person sometimes, just not the people I want to. At the same time as this is happening, I can play games by myself, with no lag or any issues I can play with utter strangers.

    When I try to connect to my friend’s party, it tells me it could not connect. It tells me it may be a problem with my NAT, and then it tells me that my NAT settings are OPEN, the right kind. All in the same sentence. I would like to thank the developers of halo 3, and microsoft for deeming it necessary to tell me that regardless of how correct my settings are, my paid-for service is still broken, and then not offer any kind of alternative solutions.

    Microsoft must be pretending it isn’t happening at all.
    Lalala paying customers, we can’t hear you!

  • http://www.carolsvault.com Carol

    Al and Ervan, i think you guys are losing packs on the network when using your wireless routers.
    I suggest keeping it on the cable for more stability.

    To avoid the mess, get 2 powerline ethernet adapters.
    Hook one into your modem/ hub, and the other one into a power socket near your 360.
    Plug the Internet cable from you 360 into the powerline, and you’re set to go.

    Good luck!

  • http://www.carolsvault.com/ Carol

    Al and Ervan, i think you guys are losing packs on the network when using your wireless routers.
    I suggest keeping it on the cable for more stability.

    To avoid the mess, get 2 powerline ethernet adapters.
    Hook one into your modem/ hub, and the other one into a power socket near your 360.
    Plug the Internet cable from you 360 into the powerline, and you’re set to go.

    Good luck!

  • Evan

    i cant play or invite my friend to private chat but when i unplugged my wireles and connected my xbox straight to the modem it worked :S but if i plug it into the router it doesnt work what can i do so that i can use my wireless adapter.

  • Evan

    i cant play or invite my friend to private chat but when i unplugged my wireles and connected my xbox straight to the modem it worked :S but if i plug it into the router it doesnt work what can i do so that i can use my wireless adapter.

  • Al

    I Have a really crazy situation, I have a WRT54G2 wireless router it is giving me an ip of 192.168.0.x and I can connect to X-box live play unknown people and send messages to friends but Iam unable to join a party private chat or game with my friends, but when I connect directly to my Verizon dsl modem I get an IP of 192.168.1.x and I can connect to live and do everything with friends, does anyone have a solution to fix this because it seems impossibility.

  • Al

    I Have a really crazy situation, I have a WRT54G2 wireless router it is giving me an ip of 192.168.0.x and I can connect to X-box live play unknown people and send messages to friends but Iam unable to join a party private chat or game with my friends, but when I connect directly to my Verizon dsl modem I get an IP of 192.168.1.x and I can connect to live and do everything with friends, does anyone have a solution to fix this because it seems impossibility.

  • http://www.carolsvault.com Carol

    Mike, i didn’t think of this one.
    Thanks for sharing.

    If a gamer has only one IP to use (depending on the ISP) then it can lead to IP conflicts between the 360 and the computer.

    The problem is, when i had it, i could put up to 4 pc’s or 360′s on my network and use them all at the same time, so the cause was different.

  • http://www.carolsvault.com/ Carol

    Mike, i didn’t think of this one.
    Thanks for sharing.

    If a gamer has only one IP to use (depending on the ISP) then it can lead to IP conflicts between the 360 and the computer.

    The problem is, when i had it, i could put up to 4 pc’s or 360′s on my network and use them all at the same time, so the cause was different.

  • Mike

    Sometimes this problem occurs if you have a PC switched on or in sleep mode on the same network while you are playing on your 360. When my PC is off I have no problem with the NAT setting or joining games.

  • Mike

    Sometimes this problem occurs if you have a PC switched on or in sleep mode on the same network while you are playing on your 360. When my PC is off I have no problem with the NAT setting or joining games.

  • prescott

    since friday i was play my xbox and i keep getin disconnected from live.. i do test connection but it passes everything. but i still cant play games online cuz every time i lof on in 3 to 5 min times i get disconnected.. and 1 no what d problem may be

  • prescott

    since friday i was play my xbox and i keep getin disconnected from live.. i do test connection but it passes everything. but i still cant play games online cuz every time i lof on in 3 to 5 min times i get disconnected.. and 1 no what d problem may be